8 signs that your friendship is for real
Chaotic schedules and stressful routines leave little time to nurture a new friendship between people with no shared history. Often, that’s just the way it is as you grow older. However, true friendships stay strong over time. A recent survey pointed out what all genuine friendships have in common.
1. You’re both present.
“The ability to know when just to listen and when to give advice. Being there, no matter what, even if you live hundreds of miles away. Understanding each other and accepting each other unconditionally.”
2. You truly want the best for each other.
“I have two best friends and what they have in common is the awareness that I want them to be as happy as possible. So if I am a bit of a jerk sometimes they know it is not actually directed at them.”
3. You’re unabashedly loyal.
“She always has my back and NEVER takes the other person’s side. If I am in crisis, she is in crisis. We do that for each other… no matter what!”
4. You can laugh with each other — over the silliest things.
“I have a handful of friends that I’ve had close friendships with for about 40 years, and they are the treasure of my life. I value their acceptance, their trust, their loyalty, their forbearance, and their humor. I can’t imagine life without them!”
5. You’re willing to answer each other’s calls any time, day or night.
“You have forgiven me. You have loved me no matter what. You would answer my phone call at 3 in the morning.”
6. You’re honest enough to call each other out.
“A good friend cares for me enough to tell me when they think I’m wrong about something.”
7. You can pick up exactly where you left off even after a long absence.
“Regardless of the length of time that has elapsed between meetings/correspondences … the connection is still the same.