A Day In the Life of a Gay Christian — Relationship OCD

@gaychristianity
Nov 4 · 2 min read

Hello there,

I wanted to share some victories, over the past month or so I talked about loving yourself and worshiping God. I also talked about close friends and the intricacies of that relationship.

I recently learned that it is so much easier to control my emotions and thoughts when God is on the forefront of my mind, and more specifically break my relationship ODC tendencies. In a few easy steps you can consider doing the same, and hopefully this trick helps you keep your mind on holiness.

Intentionally think about God — Think about Him in all that you do. Perhaps you’re struggling with sinful desirous and obsessive thoughts, and someone you like texts you. Its way easier to set yourself up for success by first putting it before God. Reply in a way that is straight forward and only has one standard.
For example, I found that being very straight forward with my texts makes it easier to not over think about the words I’m using. I also do not “hint” at things, for example if I want to go for pizza with that person, I will intentionally think about “Why” — is it because I like them or because I genuinely want to hang out with them.

TLDR: I often compare my relationship with them to other friendships and how I would react in a similar situation if it was someone else. If I’m doing something extra for this person I think about “Why” and usually the answer is because I like that person.

I would now put this before God, and really ask myself, should I be texting this person in a way that “hints” at things, and the answer is no.

Leaving behind hints or “beating around the bush” leaves you vulnerable to OCD tendencies” — I mean, if you indirectly tell someone that you’d like to go for pizza, if they don’t pick up on it, its very possible that you could spiral into a million thoughts as to why they didn’t invite you.

It’s also just not right before God (espeically if the relationship is sinful)

kk . well gg? idk just comment if u wanna know something more specific on how I conquered relationship OCD.

@gaychristianity

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I’m a Christian who struggles against the sinful temptations of homosexuality.

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