You need to dig deeper than you think.

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As a startup mentor and a coach, I witnessed so many entrepreneurs going through the trenches of selling their idea to the investors, creating momentum in their business, and finally “making it”. Some made it, so many didn’t.

As for why so many can’t make it, I knew the usual reasons such as product-market fit, the team experience and dynamics, timing, and luck, etc. But, connecting deeper with entrepreneurs, now as an entrepreneur myself, I’ve become fascinated by the internal process that strongly influences whether we can achieve our goals.

The internal…

Know thyself, take your power back.

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An a**hole boss, who puts you under their thumb, nitpicks what you said and did, randomly messages you saying what you did wrong, and pushes you to play on your weakness is your ticket to stand up as a leader. Counterintuitive?

A close friend — let’s call her Brittney — told me about her struggles with her boss at one of the top tech companies. ⁠This boss was expecting her to be creative yet super detailed (though it’s not her strength), and work extra hours with no extra pay. She cared so much about looking good to others, therefore she’d…

And what you can do to become a successful once and for all.

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I remember listening to the podcast “How I Built This” and feeling enamored by the stories of entrepreneurs that I admire like Yvon Chouinard (owner of Patagonia), as well as experiencing deep despair.

I often heard successful entrepreneurs talk about their stories of going after their calling consistently, and I thought: “Oh, that’s for other people!”

Me? I just had a “potential” but not the guts, skills, or the persistence to create what I wanted. Plus, I was supposed to pay my bills and help my parents with their debts.

Taking risks was for “other people.”

Then I realized I…

And how to stop them.

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There are countless times I wanted to go after my dreams. Most times, I found myself paralyzed, unable to move a finger to start my endeavor or just after starting, drenched in anxiety and overwhelm. Through studying my mind and other people, I am now well versed in recognizing and stopping the sneaky patterns, the murderers of my dreams. So can you.

I got to tell you that it hasn’t been quick or easy. It took a lot to say no to my perfectly comfortable, secure corporate job to travel around the world, get in touch with my calling, and…

It is the key to building trust, true connection, and spiritual growth.

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My partner and I are currently visiting my family in Turkey. I’ve lived in the U.S. over the last 8 years and only have only been able to visit my family a few weeks a year up to this point. Now that we’ve quit our jobs to build a new life, we are free to spend time with family as much as we want. As much as I love being with family, I am challenged by the old dynamics—you know, the ones that make your hackles rise. …

“When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” — Lao Tzu

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Do you have big dreams that give you butterflies in your stomach? Immediately after the sweetness of that excitement, do you sink into a paralyzing emotional hole made of confusion, disbelief, and impatience– generating arguments on how/why you can’t get there?

I certainly have. People I coach have. My friends have.

Scarcity is a destructive lie we created collectively as a society. It is the only thing in between us and our glorious dreams of prosperity and equality for everyone. We’ve believed that there are a limited number of opportunities and resources, therefore we must compete. Competition creates a comparison…

Sometimes, you just need to ask a different question.

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“I want to live by my purpose. But, the moment I start looking for it, I feel lost.” said my coaching client Jackie. She looked somewhat resigned– she didn’t think there was anything to help her. After all, she had tried various jobs and read many books, only to go around in circles. She told me that she was too old to find her purpose anyway.

I worked with Jackie for a few weeks and discovered that she took many actions to figure out her calling. But it never occurred to her to ask different questions and listen in. Jackie…

Nonviolent Communication Technique can transform your relationships.

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One of the most moving quotes I read is by Rumi and says “Out beyond the ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there”. This quote gently urged me to take an honest look at my perception of the people around me. I realized that I am too quick to label and take sides– which manifests in the way I communicate. Unfortunately, I mirror the collective human behavior; the “me vs. you” or “good guys vs. bad guys” point of view is pervasive in the news, social media, and even in our family gatherings.


Play, so that you live lightly in a serious world.

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A few years ago, insomnia took over my life while I was so eager to start a business on the side and knock off my “personal development” goals. I tried all the therapies and known remedies, but nothing truly worked until I realized something so obvious yet completely unnoticed in my life: I was just marching towards milestones with no focus on joy or play.

This realization shook me; I looked back at my 30 years of life and saw that I achieved almost everything I set my mind to without ever enjoying the process. If I were to continue…

We can heal the world by starting with ourselves.

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As a society, we are going through much-needed, long-overdue change. The #BlackLivesMatter movement is finally moving people, helping them acknowledge the truth and take ownership. The byproduct of this unrest and uncertainty is that we will have to go through discomfort to dismantle the old systems and patterns to create true equality.

It can be difficult to admit the blindspots, mistakes, and biases, whether you intentionally played a part or not. With Covid-19 prevailing and racial-social injustice outcry raising, we are being pushed to realize that we are all connected. …

Gizem Cetgin

Digital nomad, leadership coach writing about overcoming imposter syndrome, following your bliss, and relationships. Follow me:

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