Yeah the purity culture to me is one of the things that gives Christianity a bad name. It is short sighted, ignorant, hypocritical, etc... As a father I want my kids to wait in regards to sex because of the possible consequences of it. Both the physical and emotional ones that they won’t be ready for. On the other hand this notion that people are pure or not pure based on that is REALLY problematic. It is the line of thinking that would consider a women in prior generations damaged goods if they weren’t a virgin. That is the last thing I want my daughter to ever think. She is precious no matter what. Her mother and I will love her no matter what. Our children need us most when they fall. This sort of thing undercuts that and makes it tougher.