A really fascinating read! I remember being one of those with potential a few years ago struggling with the relationship with my father which brought on all kinds of crap into the relationship I was in. This resulting in the woman I was dating to leave me, and for a long time I was broken, and I felt the need for that kind of nurturing character as you describe. Now several years later I am glad that she actually got out of the relationship for her own sake.
It also made me try to actually realize my potential (which was something she always talked about) and several years (and therapy hours later) I have achieved more than even I can believe.
Thank you for this post as it allows me (and possibly others who is/have been in the same situation) to see it from the side of the woman as well, a perspective I sorely lacked at the time.