I think you are right. We are living in a world of separation and it is our natural bent to perceive all in terms of polarities. We are a bit blind to the ‘biggie’ though, consciousness and the unconscious, because we are too close to the action.
For the polarities to come together a new force must enter the picture. And yet the friction of these polarities as they approach each other actually has a hand in creating that new force. It seems like a bootstrap process where one needs to start with some of the stuff of transformation in order to be able to make more of it.
The ‘resolving force’ that is stretched, moulded and hammered by the ‘friction’ of the consciousness/ unconscious duality, turns out to be our-selves; A force undergoing the act of transformation.