15 Minutes to a Perfect First Impression
How to Make a Good First Impression, No Matter What — Do You Know How to Make It Count?
I can’t tell you the number of guys who ask me:
“David, what’s the best way to make a good first impression? How do I show off my personality without scaring her away?”
As a dating expert, I know that this can seem troublesome. After all, if you want a woman to think the most of you… won’t you have to lie a little bit, or hide something?
No! And with the right steps, you’ll never have to hide anything from a woman you’ve just met.
So today, I want to show you the art of the first impression:
Why it matters so much to women…
How to easily develop one that works for your personality…
And how to use your first interaction to your fullest advantage with the next woman you want.
Ready to dive in?
Let’s get started:
Why Do First Impressions Matter To Women?
A lot of guys immediately assume that your first impression is about what you say… but this isn’t the case at all.
Instead, a first impression is primarily visual.
This is why first impressions matter to women — she uses her visual cues to determine whether or not she wants to get closer or continue her interaction with you.
Have you ever tried the exercise where you watch a soap opera in a foreign language?
I created it to help my clients learn the power of body language and other non-verbal forms of communication.
Basically, you watch a soap opera in a language you don’t understand for 10 minutes with the sound off… and then you watch for 10 minutes with the sound on.
What you end up discovering is how much information is purely visual — you don’t need to hear a single word to recognize “anger” or “passion,” for example.
Then, with the sound on, you discover that without understanding the words, the vocal tonality delivers even more information.
It Doesn’t End There…
Some of this “nonverbal” information is delivered through your body language, posture, wardrobe, and grooming habits. So today, I want to focus on those.
These are the most important factors in setting up a perfect first impression.
So whether you want to be the “bad boy”…
Or the “charming stranger”…
These steps should help you a lot:
1) Evaluate Your Wardrobe (& Update As Necessary)
When it comes to your clothes, you have three options:
a) Trash it (or donate it) — if it doesn’t look good on you, then you shouldn’t wear it. Period.
b) Keep it inside. This goes for things like sweats and other “ratty” clothing.
c) Dress it up. Do you have shoes, a t-shirt or a jacket that you can make into a cool outfit? Then wear that, and wear it often.
Pro Tip: A black leather jacket that fits your body well (not baggy) dresses up almost any casual outfit.
2) Emulate a Masculine Role Model
The key to using your posture and body language to make a great first impression is to not try to improve it in the moment when you meet a woman.
Don’t try to puff up when you notice that girl — on the contrary, it’s important to develop good body language now, so it seems natural when you’re with a woman you want.
The easiest way to do this is to find a masculine role model and stand as if you’re portraying him.
Here are a few good examples:
- George Clooney…
- Brad Pitt…
- Bradley Cooper…
- Denzel Washington…
And the list goes on.
Your goal here is to find a masculine role model you can picture, and practice standing the same way he does. This will naturally help you give off the perfect first impression to women.
3) Groom Yourself Properly (Takes Almost No Time, Makes HUGE Difference)
I know, I know. You’re a man. You don’t want to spend time trying to look pretty.
However, smelling good and being gnerally “clean” cannot be overrated.
Women are sensual creatures, so you want to appeal to as many of her senses as you can. Smell and touch are two that good grooming can help with.
The simplest grooming tip is to just shower every day. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I can’t tell you how many clients have come to me smelling like garbage, wondering why they’re not getting any dates.
So with the right outfit, body language, and grooming, you’re basically there… it shouldn’t take you any longer than 15 minutes to make this work.
And beyond that, here’s how to seal the deal with the next woman you want:
What a Perfect First Impression Looks Like In Action…
Like I said, these steps are pretty easy to follow… but when you’re actually out & interacting with women… they can also be easy to mix up or forget “in the moment.”
That’s why I had my fellow mentor, Magic, make this video… it shows you what this “perfect first impression” looks like in action.
Even better, he explains all the steps while he demonstrates them… so you can fully understand what he’s doing, as you watch him do it.
It’s what I show my new clients when they feel a little nervous about meeting women… or when they tell me their “mind keeps going blank”… and it’s been really helpful for them.
(One older client of mine recently told me the video helped him score a date with his hot new coworker… hell yeah!)
So if you want to use the steps I showed you… but you’d like to feel a little more confident first… then this video should help you a lot: