5 Easy Ways to Make Her Orgasm More Likely (Study)
Discover How to Make Her Come Faster Than You Ever Imagined — Is It Really this Easy?
The mystery of the female orgasm is one that most men think will remain unsolved… well, forever.
Sure, study after study has found that there are many different ways to give a woman an orgasm — but there’s no one technique that’s going to work on every woman.
On top of that, this recent study discovered that straight women experience fewer orgasms than straight men, and even lesbian and bisexual women.
I know — as if you didn’t have enough to worry about already, right?
But what’s interesting about the data in this study is that it revealed something else:
There were a few things that the women who experienced the most orgasms had in common, that the other women didn’t.
And if you know what these things are, then you can use them to your advantage…
So the odds that the next woman you take home will have an orgasm with you skyrocket.
With that in mind, here are 5 of the easiest and most effective techniques that will help you give the next woman you sleep with an orgasm:
1) Be Generous With Oral
The first one is likely a piece of advice you’ve heard before — but it rings true nonetheless.
Always, always, always go down on her during foreplay.
According to the study, the women who experienced the most orgasms also received more oral sex.
This is probably not a coincidence.
Even if you don’t feel like you know what you’re doing, necessarily, the fact that you’re making the effort will a) turn her on more, and b) encourage her to return the favor.
It’s a win/win.
2) Communicate as Much as Possible
I know we here at Gotham Club mention this piece of advice more often than probably any other… but there’s a reason for it.
Communication is the #1 key to a happy and healthy sex life — for both you and the woman you’re with.
You don’t even have to take my word for it; the study backs me up as well. The women who experienced the most orgasms also communicated with their partners in several key ways.
- Praised their partners more often…
- Asked for what they wanted in bed more often…
- And incorporated dirty talk into their routines…
So basically, they were more open in bed — and because of that openness, their partners were able to give them the pleasure they truly wanted.
If your lady is on the shy or quiet side, then communication is definitely not out of the question.
All you have to do is ease into it. Don’t make her feel like you’re putting her “on the spot.” You could say something like,
“I really loved what you did to me in bed last night… is there anything like that you want me to do to you?”
“What are some of your favorite turn-ons during sex?”
It’s simple, but it’s also incredibly effective. And because most men don’t think to ask their partners about what they want in bed, she’ll be impressed that you’re making an active effort.
3) Send Her Naughty Emails/Texts
It might not make the most sense, but stick with me for a second:
One of the easiest ways to give a woman orgasm during sex is to have a long, slow buildup of pleasure beforehand.
Most men assume this only means foreplay, but the truth is that this “buildup” can begin even earlier in the day.
Let’s say you know she takes her lunch break at 1 p.m. every day. At around 1:15, you could text her:
“I know you’re on your lunch break right now, but all I can think about is eating you. ;)”
While not outright saying, “Let’s have sex tonight,” this reminds her of your sexual desire for her, and will almost certainly get her revved up and ready to go for the next time she sees you.
If you’re more of an email-minded kind of guy, you could also find an article about sex and send it to her. She’ll get the point — trust me. :-)
4) Act Out Her Sexual Fantasies
Another shared commonality between the women in the study who orgasmed most often?
They acted out sexual fantasies with their partner.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they went all out — costumes, role-play, the whole shebang — and it doesn’t mean that these fantasies were super “cliche” either.
It also doesn’t mean that acting out a sexual fantasy is required for a woman to have an orgasm.
However, acting out a fantasy together can make the two of you feel closer to each other, and more intimate — and that increases the chances that she’ll have an orgasm.
Because study after study shows that women are more likely to have an orgasm if an emotional connection involved. And acting out a fantasy is a great way to establish that kind of connection.
So the next time you’re about to get intimate with her, why not ask:
“Hey, do you have any wild fantasies you want to act out?”
“I had this really hot dream the other night… would you want to act it out with me?”
You might be surprised by how open she is to the idea, and how much better the sex is as a result.
5) Be Vocal During Sex
The last tip coming from the study is one that you might not expect:
Speak up during sex!
According to the study, the women who had the most orgasms both “incorporated sexy talk” and “expressed love during sex.”
What exactly does that mean?
Basically, don’t go radio silent during the act. Moan when she does something that makes you feel good…
Let her know when she’s touching (or kissing, or sucking) you in a way that drives you crazy…
Tell her if you want her to do something harder or faster…
All of these are great ways to improve the sexual experience for you both.
Because at the end of the day, yes, she wants you to give her an orgasm — but she also wants to know that what she’s doing works for you.
And once you start vocalizing more during sex, she’ll be sure to follow suit.
These are all really great tips and tricks to make her orgasm more likely… but you might be wondering:
“Is there something more specific that I can do during sex to take her over the edge?”
In my experience, the answer is definitely “Yes”… here’s something that works really well on me:
The Technique That Gave Me an Orgasm in < 10 Minutes…
There’s something you can do while we’re having sex… that makes me come way faster… and it makes my orgasms more intense, too.
Here’s how it works:
When you’re inside me, you do this simple little “push” move with your hips… and after a few minutes, oh my god…
It’s kinda like opening a bottle of champagne… you’ll feel the pressure build inside her, and then <POP>, surging ecstasy explosion.
I used to think I could only orgasm after 35 minutes of sex + oral… until a guy did this to me in missionary… no foreplay or anything… and I came in 6 minutes flat (I timed it, lol).
You can check out this video to see more detailed instructions about how to do it — but be warned: you might want to watch this somewhere “private” ;) :