Wow. Just. Wow.
I’m very sorry you had to go through all that pain and suffering. Your story’s not unique — I’ve read a few which are almost identical, just over the last month.
I’m glad you came through it with your sanity intact, though, and are making the right decisions. The truth is, whether you’re traditionally published or not, every writer has to be in charge of their own careers. Publishing companies just don’t do anything very significant for us anymore, and they take a huge whack of our royalties.
Indie publishing is more lucrative, more satisfying, and just plain more fun. Welcome to the light, Shaunta! :)