You and I would be on the same page, but 95% of the folks who make the statement of being fiscally conservative and socially liberal are in the Bush camp or worse, and are willing to give a way the store on entitlement programs. They are completely clueless how the system works. Socially Liberal is like saying Compasionite Conservative, all I see is more code words for transfer payments from me to someone else. If you think otherwise you are howling at the moon; there are not enough of us who fit your definition that it matters, the others will fudge as soon as you say refugee or give them a hard luck story.
You are actually trying to use the true definition of the word liberal which has been co-opted and ceases to exist in our society.