Five simple techniques for developing Confidence

Growing up I was the extremely shy type. I never spoke in public; never looked into anyone’s eyes, in fact I never raised my head in public. There’s nothing in the world that could make me ask a question in class even when I needed to. I wasn’t confident and this drew me back on so many occasions. Until one day, I was among the best five students in my class and was selected as part of the debate team and that was the beginning of the end to the shy Gideon era, my team aced the debate and I was left with double rewards (full story some other time).

You see lack of confidence closes a lot of doors and stops you from entering even the widest of open doors.

It makes you feel lonely but the truth is I was not alone and so are you too. Chances are You face this every day. You are challenged to chuck off fear and build your confidence. However, the bugging question in this is: how exactly do you do that? How do you gain confidence?

In this post I’d share with you five techniques for developing your confidence.

The cause

Lack of confidence like other life problems can only be curbed upon knowledge of its causes. So firstly, what militates against the development of your confidence?

The obvious answer is fear, but is this giant enemy working alone? Or has it got a gang bidding to beat you out of the confidence race?

Alongside fear, another enemy to confidence development is depression. Yes, stress causes anxiety and that alone could beat confidence out of you. Yet another is a meandering mind full of wanderings and wondering. To cap it all the chief of them all is self-doubt.

The solution

To curb the activities of these miscreants I present you these five, easy to implement things which would invariably boost your Confidence. These are?

  1. Avoid focusing on your flaws:

The fact that you flawed in the past doesn’t mean your future would be determined by same flaws. You can start over anytime and have a happy ending. Failure is not final nor is it fatal. So instead of dwelling on your past mistakes and failures, move forward and look toward doing better.

2. Be positive:

No matter how bad a situation looks it is always possible for some positive impact to come out of it. So instead of dwelling on the negative look up and believe success is still attainable. This boosts your morale and thus helps you approach your goals with more confidence.

3. Focus on what you have and can do:

To boost your confidence it is always good to focus on your abilities and capabilities. This alone would build a positive resilience within you and thus help you gain more confidence towards your goals.

4. Take a break:

Yes, the fact that you want to achieve that giant goal of yours doesn’t mean you should walk yourself into stress as this could be counter intuitive in the sense that it could make you lose confidence. So go take a break, rest and then come back.

5. Learn and use deep breathing techniques:

This is the easiest to implement of all these techniques. Whenever your heart starts skipping beats or racing on cause if a goal, just calm down by taking deep breathes. This helps you act more logically. You’d be surprised at how much you’d be able to achieve when you calm down.

Ending Notes

There you have it – the five techniques to use towards gaining more confidence. Using these techniques would foster the development of your confidence and boost your morale towards your ever daunting tasks.

What other techniques can you use to build your confidence? Let us know by leaving a comment.

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