How to Stop Playing The Victim in Your Life
Learn to silence the voice of self-pity
“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.” ― D.H. Lawrence
It took me over 30 years to forget what my father did to me.
My teenage memories are blurred. But the angst and the pain are not. “Why is this happening to me?” — I asked myself every day. I was a victim. At least, that’s what I felt.
When things don’t go our way, we blame others.
Life is not fair. It’s not unfair either. Life just is. It took me a lot of pain and time to realize that. And to get over it and become in charge of my life.
Through time, I realized my father did nothing to me. Maybe he didn’t love me, didn’t care about me, or just wasn’t present when I needed him. I suffered because of what I expected not because of what he did.
I learned the lesson. We can accept reality and adapt to it. Or we can live in denial. What happens, happens. It doesn’t happen to you. That’s the difference between having ownership of our lives or pity for ourselves.
