I met my boyfriend on Tinder. He was my 14th date from the app.

I admire the automated approach (I am a marketer) but also know personalization is important, too.

Frequently, I’d ask to connect on Facebook with a potential date to “check them out” before meeting in person. I would feel better hanging out with someone after seeing them with family and learning a little about their interests. Especially lately, I would want to know their politically interests and if it matched my own (or one that I could tolerate).

If I were to go to your Facebook profile (as a potential date) I might notice you still had pictures of your ex from 2014. In fact, loving professional pictures that look like engagement photos. This can make a person wonder if you were still hung up on your ex. Just a thought . . .

Also, I always appreciated when someone took the time on the app to get to know me before asking for my number. As if a phone number were more important than hearing about my interest in photography? Why not find out more about who you’d like to meet first and then once a rapport is built, ask them out.