Snippets and thoughts on “Modern Romance” by Aziz Ansari

First a short tale on how I came upon this book. I have been a fan of Aziz Ansari more recently after watching his Netflix series Master of None. I’ve also enjoyed his brief performance on Bobs Burgers in a more memorable episode. Parks and Rec is still on my long list of shows to watch too. But I heard about this book from my friend Sonja, who goes through books faster than anyone I’ve seen and whose book recommendations I value dearly.


Aziz definitely put in the research into this book and it shows through the various graphs that he uses to illustrate his points. His arguments and findings are backed by his own personal experiences and from data that he has collected. I found the book insightful, yet a bit dismayed at what technology can do in this aspect of our lives. This is a book that would be relevant for anyone that owns a smartphone or uses the internet (which is the majority of people). He brings up a point I itched my head in contemplation over in that he questioned whether marriage would soon be an outdated institution with the advent of technology that gives us so many choices and ways to communicate and build relationships. Several other ideas came up, but that’s one for ya. Overall, I recommend this book because it is a fairly short read and being written by a comedian, the book is entertaining and funny throughout. Awareness on how technology impacts various aspects of our lives makes this one relevant and necessary as well.

If you aren’t too keen in purchasing the book or don’t live close enough to me to borrow it, here are his findings summed up below.

“Finding someone today is probably more complicated and stressful than it was for previous generations- but you’re also more likely to end up with someone you are really excited about”
“Technology hasn’t just changed how we find romance; it’s also put a new spin on the timeless challenges we face once we’re in a relationship”
“Treat potential partners like actual people, not bubbles on a screen”
“Don’t think of online dating as dating- think of it as an online introduction service”
“With so many romantic options, instead of trying to explore them all, make sure you properly invest in people and give them a fair chance before moving on to the next one”