For those who are taking this obviously tongue in cheek article all too seriously…relax, it’s a joke (mostly) but like all good jokes it works because it carries a grain of truth. Men do need a reasonable strategy for coping with feelings that will (for want of a better phrase) very naturally arise.
And we as a culture need to explain and model how boys should handle their feelings in ways that help everyone feel safe and succeed, including the boy, so that when he becomes a man the right choice becomes second nature. ‘Cause you know, nature can get out of hand if we don’t manage it with the exclusively human tools that allows us to think things through before we act, and place ourselves in the other person’s shoes.
Men often seem to assume that women don’t have similarly uncomfortable feelings, and therefore can’t understand what men are going through. We do! I can imagine myself feeling uncharacteristically giggly if my meeting with a colleague turned out to be with someone who looked like the Rock (or Ronan Farrow, for that matter) but I would do whatever it took to manage those feelings maturely, because that is the right, reasonable, and legal thing to do.
“I am an emotionally healthy person with normal boundaries, courtesy, and respect for my fellow humans” is right on. Let’s all keep working at that, right?
As I once said to a former friend who kept trying to refuse to take no for an answer, “Let’s be civilized, shall we?” as I pushed him out the door.
And if a little visualization of someone whose personal boundaries you have no trouble respecting helps you remember what that looks like, I say, great, do that!