Why We Like Assholes

and hate the people who actually treat us nicely

We want what we can’t have. And once it is in our reach, often, we do not want it anymore.

It is the art of chasing someone that makes dating exciting. Not only that, but we want what is hard to get because it feels cliche to want the person who already wants you. And when you oh so rarely want the nice person, there must be some sort of game in between. As if this sort of union is the prize in itself.

So, we like assholes because we like gaining the respect and affection of others, not being given it. Today, games are played and it mostly is not so simple to get the one you want because that is how we have grown up. We have grown up in a world where there is competition, and it feels too good to be true when what we want is so easily handed to us. But on the other hand, we have grown up in a world where most things are easily handed to us. Though on top of it all, we are materialistic. We enjoy things and treating people like things. And so, the more value of the person is only in correlation with their cost of course. Like a car.

Everyone wants a porsche, audi, etc… because it is not what most people have. It is not the easiest purchase to most people.

And here is my advice, don’t be the chaser. Be the prize. If someone is not taking your kindness, whether it is truly genuine and will last beyond these games or it is just for the ‘glory of winning,’ than they are not of value. The way to do this: give up. Because the moment you do, the tables will have turned.