People Change: The Art of Growing Up
One common practice that is shared among all cultures is friendship. It is inevitable to make friends as we grow we feed for warmth, acceptance, and human interaction. Plain and simple:
Nobody wants to be lonely
Friendship however is very complicated. Friends are a reflection of who we are, I am a strong believer in the famous quote
“Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.”
We start as young kids accepting any and all people around us as friends. As kids we all share one common belief, having fun. A formation of perception and values will eventually restrain us from being friends with certain people.
It is known that you are the compilation of your 5 best friends. You share attributes and common practices with one another from being in one’s presence. By surrounding yourself with successful individuals whom you aspire to be like, chances are, they will give you that extra boost you need in order to climb the mountain to success.
One of the biggest challenges we face with friendship is recognizing that we have to say goodbye.
We all have these friends whom we enjoyed being around when we were smoking weed and skipping classes. We share many memorable moments with one another, of which some friends may not be able to grow past. Simply put, as we grow past phases in our lives some friends may not. Understanding that these friends are holding you back is important. You may believe that you must change them, but it’s a waste of time and the truth is they don’t share the same values as you do in the moment. The best thing you can do for yourself and this friend is move on. Saying goodbye is very difficult but it has to be done in order to take the necessary steps in the right direction.
The fact is, by dropping these individuals they may finally come to their senses. When someone sees a person succeeding who at the time was equal to themselves it often results in one of two things. They are either inspired and “follow suit”, or they reject and form angst towards you. This inspiration can rekindle a friendship. However, the ones who take the alternate route ultimately reinforce your initial decision to rid this person. Take the steps to success and don’t ever look back.
Friends come and go; only the loyal and trusting ones who believe and respect your views stick around.