Life Changes — Breaking Bad Habits And Unlocking The Chain Of Despair
Making life changes can be easy if we weren’t running 90% on automatic.
Many people, if not all, tend to live a habitual life: always taking the same route to work or to the shops, getting dressed in exactly the same order, having the same type of close friends, dining at the same restaurants or going to the same resort for their holidays year after year. We possibly do that because we feel comfortable that way, as we don’t feel we are stretched thin out of our comfort zone.
Now what about the other habits, those that make up who some people are: always having a cigarette with a cup of coffee or an alcoholic beverage, too shy and reserved to attend any social events so would rather sulk at home feeling lonely and sorry for themselves, or perhaps do not feel confident or courageous enough to ask a person on a date.
Habits have a great affect on us: they control us. They rule and direct our actions and behaviors. They make it difficult for us to consciously make any life changes.
“Habits are important. Up to 90 percent of our everyday behavior is based on habit. Nearly all of what we do each day, every day, is simply habit.” Jack D. Hodge
I used to take Spanish classes once a week in an adult education center. During the break one day, the person sitting next to me took me aside and confided in me that she was worried about her granddaughter. She doesn’t go out of her home. She stays in and watches television or reads a book all day long.
The worried grandmother had one burning question on her lips: “I want my granddaughter to go out, make friends and see what there is outside of her home. I want her to be confident enough to start enjoying life. After all, you’re only young once, right?” I silently nodded. She continued, “I really want her to make something more out of her life. How can I help her to get out of her shell? This habit of staying in all the time has to change. I want the best for her, see. Bless her.”
We are the creators of our habits. We knowingly and consciously created some habits, yet we also had some created unknowingly and unconsciously. Either way, we created them or they were created for us.
We created the habit of putting our feet up in front of the television after dinner, or going for a drink every Saturday night with our friends. We create our habits because we are naturally creatures of habit. As human beings, that’s what we do; create one habit after the next.
“Good habits, once established are just as hard to break as are bad habits.” Robert Puller
Some habits we create directly from our beliefs, as in the granddaughter’s situation. She believes she is lacking in self-confidence, so she has formed the habit of staying indoors and avoiding people other than her family.
Since we are the creators of our habits, the good and the not-so-good, whether directly or not, we are able to change those that do not serve us well, and by changing them, we can live a better and more fulfilled life.
How can you change your habits? How can you go about breaking bad habits to enable you to follow-through with making the life changes that you desire?
Here’s what the grandmother did. Over the next few weeks since our initial conversation, the grandmother gently eased the unconfident granddaughter out with her to the local, small shops, to the small open space. She used the excuse that she needed help carrying her shopping bags as her back was ‘up to its usual tricks’ as she put it. At lunchtime, instead of returning home, she would purposefully suggest eating at a fast food restaurant as there was more shopping to be done.
This way the grandmother gradually built her granddaughter’s self-confidence without her evening knowing it. That way the barriers that were there did not offer too much resistance. After a month or so, I was very happy to learn that the granddaughter began to make a number of significant changes.
The nine year old child began to incorporate new things into her life. By unknowingly breaking bad habits, thanks to the quiet persistence of her grandmother, she was able to make and enjoy certain life changes.
She joined the after-school chess club, gym club, netball club and ICT class. She has a circle of close best friends. And what’s even more encouraging was that joining these extra-curricular activities were her ideas. Not her grandmother’s!
In time, the girl built on the confidence gained from these activities and took on larger and more challenging ones. She naturally integrated this increase in self-confidence with new enhancing habits. Her life made a 180 degree turnaround. The life changes that she made were a sheer joy.
“The secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” Bryant McGill
What can you do? Why not start off by getting into the routine of breaking bad habits, at least one at a time; change an old, un-supportive habit by making one small change every day, every week, every month or even every three months. This change can be large or small, to be achieved in the time-frame that you decide on.
The possibility for change is always there, every moment of every day. Create and practice habits that support how you want to be, and notice how you gain more confidence and be ready to take on new opportunities.
Do you have a habit that is harming your health, hurting your job performance, ruining your home life or keeping you in any way from having a great life? Do you eat too many sweets, watch too much television, or smoke?
For you to create some life changes, you will need to consciously create habits that support that life that you wish to create and enjoy because habits unconsciously dictate your life whether you like it or not.
“If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream.” John Maxwell
Breaking bad habits may not be too easy to break, but armed with the appropriate tool, it can happen, and at a much faster rate than you think.
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