Aiming to be happy — some tips on how
You wake up, not knowing how the day is going to turn out.
Maybe you had some pretty good sleep, so choosing to be happy is a bit easier. The feeling is already close.
But maybe you woke up sad, or grumpy. Anxious or mad, so happiness doesn’t feel as close.
On that morning you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, choose to change your mood. Choose to make that morning cup of tea, or coffee and just do that. Do that one task and aim to feel better. Aim to feel content.
But lets say the coffee spilled and now you have to mop up the mess. All in all the morning just hasn’t been in your favor. Tell yourself that at 12, when the afternoon has finally made its appearance, that you’ll try again. You’ll aim to feel content, and if you really about it, you’ll aim for happiness.
Here’s how:
Appreciate.
Find three things you appreciate and melt yourself in the appreciation. If that be ice cream, appreciate it like you’ll never eat it again. If that be your coworker complimenting your hair, the sub you ordered came out good, the dog that walked by you got happy to see you even though it doesn’t know you — find some moments to sit with and appreciate. If you aren’t feeling the feels, it’s okay. Try again at night. You have at least three different times throughout the day (morning, afternoon, evening) to try again.
Breath.
Count 5 of your breaths. Use your inhales and exhales to block the thoughts that come up. Blow them away, right now you’re choosing to be happy. And if you’re mind is just to bee busy, it’s okay. Try again. I read somewhere that a sigh is the body’s way of resetting. So take a deep breath, let it out, restart. You got this.
Question yourself.
You have to ask the right questions, you have to check up on yourself as to why you aren’t content to begin with. Check up on your own sanity. How am I feeling? Why do I feel sad? How can I make myself feel better, right now?What do I love? — Have I been expressing that love? Have I been doing the things I love? Do I want to be happy? Am I willing to work to feel happy? And so on and so forth. You have to realize what are the things raining on your parade so that you can change them. Aiming for happiness means changing, for the better.
But by far my favorite question to ask myself, for it literally changes how I go about things: “What would someone who love themselves do?” (Teal Swan). Someone who loves themselves wants to be happy. So when you’re in an angry or sad state, ask yourself that question and whatever comes to mind, whether that be listening to music, going for a jog or seeing a friend. Do that. Understand that this question is rooted in love, so your answer should be too.
Conclusion
You have at least three chances everyday to aim for happiness. The morning, the afternoon and the evening. They’re different parts of the days where we do different things. The morning is not the afternoon, the energy is different and you’re probably doing something different for each of those periods. That change of scenery or action can allow you to go forward aiming to be happy. Putting your best foot forward in the name of your own well being, your own happiness.
BTW, if you’re reading this then you’re aiming to be happy. You’re doing it right now, just by reading words that are encouraging you to be a better you. Positive words, spread the love.
