I, like many of you, have been reeling from the impact of the “me too” movement. I made the decision to participate, but I could only get out the two words, which was surprisingly difficult. Now that my response is more developed, I do have more to say.
I’d like to echo the people who have already said that #metoo is not about eliciting sympathy. To me, sympathy feels really gross. And more importantly, sympathy has played no role in helping me heal, and I think most other victims would agree. Our bravery, resilience, and all of the hard work we’ve put into becoming whole, complete people who strive to have healthy, thriving relationships despite our experiences, is nothing to feel sorry for.
I see the #metoo movement as an opportunity for the victims of sexual harassment, assault & abuse to purge. To take all of the shame and guilt that never belonged to us in the first place, and put it back onto our perpetrators.
So cheers to everyone who says “me too”, publicly, or in private, even if you are confused about whether or not it applies to you. I believe that confusion stems from knowing that you are not weak- that you can handle it, and you don’t want your identity to be clouded by the stigma of victimhood. But you shouldn’t have to handle it. You are strong, you are brave, and you are free from feeling guilty about something that is not your fault.