How micro-resolutions could transform your 2020

We all know that New Year’s resolutions tend to wither and die an inglorious death by mid-Feb. But we want to set them, right? January feels like a new beginning, and we’d like to make it a good one, thanks.

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The self-help world is full of alternatives to the traditional model for yearly resolutions, which usually gets dismissed. The received wisdom of this age tends to go a little like this:

New Year’s resolutions are a farce. If you want to do something different, take action now. You don’t have to wait for January to make a change.

Yup. This is true. But it’s January now (almost), and most of us feel a bit fat, hungover and otherwise Christmas-addled. So, let’s talk resolutions regardless. …

How to reboot your working mindset.

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Photo by Marvin Meyer on Unsplash

Hello, autumn. Hello, sluggish starts, overpopulated inboxes and mournful pining over the beach bar in Mallorca. Clearly, we need to take holidays. But returning to work after a healthy change of gear can be tiresome and frustrating. The same goes for getting back into the swing of things after a long weekend, a sabbatical, maternity or paternity leave, etc.

There are, however, a few things you can do to utilise this transition — to make it into the birth of a healthy working mindset, rather than the death of fun and downtime.

Try the following to kick-start your autumn with a fresh perspective. …

The happy-family aspirational blueprint is a farce. It’s time to make a decision for yourself.

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Photography: Amy Shamblen/Unsplash

“Hazel, I think it might be time to freeze your eggs.”

Mum barely bothered with a “hello” before dropping that telephone bombshell — but she was probably right to convey some urgency. Menopause comes early for the women in our family. Her periods stopped at age 42 and I was only a handful of years younger than that when we had this conversation. If I wanted to be a mother, I’d better act fast.

It’s nothing short of miraculous that we’re able to take a collection of ova out of our bodies, put them on ice for a few years, and warm them up later like a microwave dinner. But it’s not without its tribulations. To better my chances of a good harvest, I’d have to pump myself full of hormones and undergo months of testing and invasive procedures. As a single woman, I’d also have to answer the not-so-simple question of who I wanted to do the fertilizing — all to shelve some rainy-day embryos. …


Hazel Gale

Boxer-turned-therapist and author of “The Mind Monster Solution” // www.hazelgale.com // Instagram: hazel.gale.therapy // Send me a message: hazel@hazelgale.com

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