Evolution vs Resolutions
I am not a fan of new years resolutions. They are often loaded with effort and obligation, and as a result often result in feelings of failure and guilt. I’m much more a fan of inspired evolution. Yesterday as I was clearing and cleaning out my little studio home, I was focusing on the things I am leaving behind in 2015 and what I’d like to move towards in 2016. When I think about the end picture, or just look at it as an all or nothing approach, it can get incredibly overwhelming and bring any evolution to a stand still. Fears and doubts and a million “what if’s” can arise. So once you’re clear on what you want, it’s time to evolve into it, but how?
First of all it’s important to get clear on what it is that you want. If you don’t know what you do want, think about what you don’t want — most people are pretty clear on that! When you know what you don’t want, the flip side of that will be what you do want. Don’t want to be so busy? So you want more quiet time. Don’t want to be so financially strained? So you want a better income (name it!). Don’t want to be feeling sick and tired all the time? So you want to be feeling vibrant, full of energy and healthy. You get the picture.
Write a list of 3 things you want for 2016. Now.
You don’t need to know every step of the way to get to what you want. You only need to know the first step, and you need to be inspired. If you’re not inspired, you’re going to need to be motivated. Motivation is hard work, it requires effort. Inspiration is effortless. Inspiration creates the energy for you to do what it is you want to do, and to do it with pleasure (even when at times the going gets tough, or your desires get challenged). The only way you’ll be inspired by it is if it is what you really want. What is it that makes your heart sing? That brings you joy? That lights up your eyes and makes you talk really fast? It’s so important to be connected with these things within ourselves. Without it we get tired, lethargic, apathetic, overwhelmed, depressed, anxious and / or sick. If you’re not sure what brings you joy, then start taking notes of any small occurrence during the day that lifts your spirit, brings an upward turn to the corner of your mouth, or boosts your energy.
The wonderful thing about inspiration is that it’s contagious. So it’s not just for your own benefit that you connect with what brings you joy, it’s for the benefit of all those around you. Surround yourself with inspiration — people (especially encouragers), places, things, activities — that represent and inspire what you desire. Then, just take one small step at a time. This is not a sprint, it’s a meander. So long as you are taking one step in the direction you want to go, you are going in the right direction, no matter how small or slow the step.
This is not a sprint, it’s a meander.
Choose a practice to adopt that will help you achieve your goal. Just one. Not ten. Not two. Just one. It might be as simple as drinking more water, or switching to good quality filtered water. Or going to bed 15 minutes earlier. When that becomes habit bring on step number two. Not three, not 18 (yes, I know we humans like to jump ahead of ourselves). Step two. Before you know it, by taking one step at a time, you will find yourself miles from where you started in the direction you want to go. Remember, out of the Hare and the Tortoise, the tortoise wins the race.