Make yourself discoverable and everything else will take care of itself

This advice goes a long way in life.

Lately, I’ve been on Quora a lot, mostly because I’m intrigued by the questions asked there. But also I enjoy gaining new perspectives in life by reading other people’s stories.

This one is about dating.

What’s the best place to meet single women in Silicon Valley?

While most answers seem standard, there’s one particular answer that stuck out to me.

Go out, it doesn’t matter where. What matters is that you make yourself discoverable and everything else will take care of itself.

Then he goes on explaining how he met his current girlfriend. It wasn’t because he went to a specific gym full of single women. Instead he made himself discoverable by just being out all the time.

To break it down, what he’s saying is this: By exposing yourself to the outside world, people will(single or not) notice you. What’s amazing is that those people you end up meeting may not be single, but they may have friends who are actively looking for a potential partner.

This simple mental shift of being discoverable is not only applicable to dating, but also to a broad stroke of situations we face in life.

For example, if you’re trying to land a new gig that is completely out of your league. Would you give up immediately?

For someone who believes in the value of being discoverable, he will jump into building a side project and share his experience and progress publicly on the internet. And who knows, a head hunter may come across his post and reach out to him for a better gig.

Putting yourself out there can and will close the gap between where you stand currently and where you want to end up in life.

Now go crazy.

Hi! I’m Kate, one of the creators for Rabbut, an email collecting tool for bloggers. A part of the reasons why I write regularly here on Medium is so that I can be discoverable by you guys. Be sure to leave me a comment below so I can say hi back.

Originally published at on September 14, 2016.