This is like Scott Adams quote; “Losers have goals, winners have systems.”
In programming it’s the difference between declarative programming and imperative programming.
Imperative is literally saying what the computer has to do, declarative is specifying the result that you want and the systems is ordered to figure that out.
Not saying to your kid; “Go upstairs, wash your hands, brush your teeth, put on your pyjama.” but instead “make yourself ready for bed.”.
How different will your kid be when it’s grown up…
Don’t try to lose 20 pounds but eat more vegetables and work on habits of healthy snacks (and the weight loss will be a result of that and you’ll be more healthy).
It’s all about the difference between knowing and being able to apply…