Sometimes you misjudge people. Have a beer before you do.
I’ve been in my job a little over 7 months now. It’s great, with amazing people who I love working with every day. There are interesting problems and interesting challenges.
As with any workplace, you have your frictions. People you don’t click with and such. It’s always a tricky balance. Primarily because I think everyone gets so caught up in their day to day and we don’t try and put each other in other people’s shoes.
There was a certain colleague of mine who loads of people rated. I couldn’t figure out why. For me, privately, this person seemed very angry at everyone and a little dismissive. I couldn’t work it out, and so came to just started to build up a dislike.
It’s amazing how wrong your perception can be at times.
A mentor of mine recently said the following to me: “If you can’t put your finger on why you don’t like someone, then chances are you haven’t empathized with them.”
It’s something I hadn’t thought about, but when you look at it, is probably true. Most dislikes in this world are irrational. They’re made worse by us not getting to know where other people are coming from, what they’re thinking and why they act the way they do.
Turns out, over a beer, that I’d got this person completely the wrong way round. They were just interested in making things happen (as am I in most cases) but we just had completely different styles. Same goal, same intentions.
One quote summed it up for me: “I just want to get the fuck out of here and see my wife.”
Just a little rant. But before we act and write someone off, maybe it’s best to first to get to know them a little better. You might find someone you actually quite like.