Being a parent now I understand the impulse to be controlling. It’s a way to keep everything in line and in it’s right place. Something that’s very hard to do with kids around!
Sometimes there has to be a mess on the floor and we’ll just keep it there for a few days because they’re just going to make it messy again anyway! 😆 Being ok with that is really liberating. When the mind is at peace it no longer needs to try to control others.