Hmic Layit
Jul 30, 2017 · 3 min read

Hello man.

I registered this account to comment on your “Lying Makes a Better World”, since you nicely keep comments disabled on your site.
I didn’t like the short essay, but, to your surprise I guess, I know all what it says is, well, true.

  1. I am a Wittgenstein type. I can confirm to you that it is not a choice.
  2. I should say 1a I guess. Even the constant lying and deceiving and self-lying and self-deceing, with that brain wheel that constantly produces fake justifications for lying and deceiving (as in “It’s to protect their feelings” or “it’s because society needs it”) don’t run on choices.
  3. Both 1 and 2 are mechanisms in the brain and depend on brain design.
  4. I would have liked if, in a piece underscoring how normal humans, and groups of humans, are incompatible with truth and sincerity, you would have said all the truth!
    Meaning: every human is a selfish organism, born to spread his/her DNA, and manipulate the environment to his/her profit and benefit: deception and self-deception enable and assist and enhance this process.
    AS AN UNINTENDED CONSEQUENCE, out of everyone’s selfishness, societies grow.
    Everyone’s selfishness makes everyone a liar and a self-liar, which HAPPENS to keep societies working.
    There is NO ALTRUISM in all of this. “White lies” are lies like all the others.
    You want to “protect someone’s feelings” because if they feel better, they treat you better. Politicians and social leaders lie because it gains them power and food for their vanity, not for the good of society. BETTERING THE WORLD is a self-deceptive goal. All humans aim for their own interest. Even I. If I want to be sincere and the others to be sincere with me, this is because it runs in the same direction as my own nature. I like it, same as humans like to lie and be lied to.
  5. It’s cool to say “ We are not capable of handling the truth. If we tried, we would destroy each other in no time.”
    But why didn’t you add that this is due to human deep brains being made of: Pride, will-to-power and dominance/will-to-obedience and own submission, sense of superiority/sense of inferiority, vanity, actual a-morality?
    Humans who say “we can’t say the truth” while they avoid to say WHY it can’t be said are cute, indeed.
  6. Your essay says, though, that to some special people it could be good to say truth.
    What about super-pure love? Two souls becoming one.
    IF they could — I don’t say “have not”, but I say “overcome” — their innate pride, vanity, and in the case of my ex, compulsion to lie and self-lie, this impossible of impossible, Super Love, could happen.
    It is true that some of the truths she told me or let me understand indirectly hurt me. I had vanity and pride, and I was hurt. Some times, insanely, madly hurt. But I never left her for that. I never ran way. And never hated her for a truth she said.
    These hurtful hard to handle truths for me could have been… how many? 10? 25? 33? A finite number. Contrary, lies are infinite.
    Our heaven would have worked, if the could treat me contrary humans want to be treated.
    But, also, she could not stand my sincerity.
    She ended up running away from me for my sincerity, lol.
    But, what I said stands: two souls can be one only without the smallest lie, of any kind, omissive “white” or whatever.
    And if somebody tells you: tell me all what’s in your mind, make me suffer, I want to know the real you, and you aren’t a coward, you do as they want, or stop saying you “love” them.