“We’re afraid that if we were to be gentle and kind with ourselves, to relax our grip, we might not accomplish anything at all. So we keep cracking our internal whip. It’s exhausting, struggling against the voice of our judgmental selves all the time just to carry on.”
Self-compassion, though, isn’t about worth. It’s about really understanding that you don’t need to justify your existence — not even to yourself. That even if you were flawed beyond measure, you’re still just a piece of the universe inhabiting a human form and thus totally legitimate just as you are.