As a child navigating through the system, I was always taught that what the system teaches is right and if you try to be the best in the system, you are sorted for life. You could have it all- friends, love, career, fortune, etc. only if you excel in what you are asked to do. A lot of people try to emulate this theory for their life and get into the dogma of fitting-in to get all the mean goals that have been standardized by the system or society. Sometimes, if people don’t see themselves fitting into the work-culture or the traditional school, they are labelled by many verbs such as idiot, lazy, careless, etc. , which can even lead to low self-esteem or self-confidence and into the disease of not being enough.
However, if we look at all the people who have changed the course of history and the world, we would observe that most of them were “Originals”, they did what they felt was right, they never pursued goals which were set for themselves, instead they set massive goals to serve the world and push humanity forward.
A lot of times we are driven to become a part of a family or get into a group of friends, so that we can fill the void of our social status or needs, even if it leads us to compromise what we believe or think is right for us. People or friends point or make fun of our uniqueness, and think that since they believe in the way society has programmed them, that is the only way to breathe. But, isn’t our uniqueness the gifts that we have been given by our experiences, influences, upbringing or divine? Shouldn’t we start embracing our idiosyncrasies, so that we can add value to the world using them rather than seeing them as a disgrace? It might be uncomfortable at first, but the loosening of the burden of fitting-in will lessen the false need of our egos to stay in a place where someone else wants us to be, rather than our true selves calling us. And it might lead us to a path or destination that we could never see for ourselves because all this while, we were fitting into someone else’s ……..