You can be both and most women are; they’ve just been indoctrinated to keep certain parts of them shoved down deep inside.
On Smart, Virtuous, Good Women Versus Dumb, Sexual, Bad Women
Ellie Guzman
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Not indoctrinated. There is no sinister conspiracy at work making this happen. It’s conditioning caused by repeatedly experiencing success and failure in the game of attraction between the sexes. You’re free to be whatever you want, but you will learn to balance that with your sexuality, and inevitably, you will grow towards becoming someone who appeals more to the kind of partner you wish to attract.