Don’t you see? There are NO rules. Do what your head and your heart tells you to do. Those ‘rules’ you are so fond of following are just made up shit in a women’s magazine designed to sell copies. NO ONE knows anything about what you feel inside BUT YOU. Is it scary and difficult? Sure. But anything worth a damn usually is. Here’s an idea — BE HONEST with yourself. If you want to call him, call. Anyone I ever dated who played this juvenile shit was in my rear view mirror in a hurry. I am honest with everyone -if you like it-great. If you don’t-then you’re not worth my time. YOU are the boss of you-no one else. There is a theory of ‘paralysis by analysis’ that might be your problem — don’t over-think everything. Just do it!