26 Grandkids And Still Lonely
NB: No one should be shamed for not wanting kids!
I’m sitting on the floor fiddling with my phone. I can hear my mum discussing with my grandma (her mum) on the phone. The whole summary of their discussion is my grandma is lonely.
How can she be lonely with 7 children, over 20 grandchildren, and 2 great-grandchildren? That’s 3 generations riding on her back. Yet she is lonely.
The lesson learned: Kids don’t cure boredom in old age!
That is, one of the perks of aging is loneliness. And having children is not a treatment for it.
Either one has kids or not, one would end up bored later in life. And we have to understand that boredom comes with age not the absence of children.
Kids are wonderful beings. In fact, having them comes with a lot of advantages. A lot I won’t enjoy when I can’t rest anymore. Yes, I said it. Have kids and wave goodbye to rest forever.
REST!
Having kids annihilates rest. And oh how I love rest. I and rest are in a serious relationship with peace of mind as my side chick. I would love to spend all my life resting like I’m right now. And I intend to do just that till I drop dead(wink).
People say to me “oh you have never had a child what do you know about that.” Hey, my parents are proof that having children annihilates rest. They are also proof that children do not belong to selfish people.
Am I selfish?
Yes, I’m a very selfish person. Who enjoys doing things at her own pace and time. A child won’t allow me that. I would also have to give up my resources to take care of one properly.
I’m of the utmost belief that selfish people should not have kids. If you can’t sacrifice you have no business with kids. Kids are for people who are big on compromising their time, dreams, and body. And these are things I can’t do without, most especially:
My Body (fickle reason incoming).
I love my body like kilode. I don’t want it to ever change. If at all it would change — let it be above my power.
Last time I checked having children change you physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’m still battling my PMS, I don’t want to handle a whole total hurl.
Being a mother is great. Being a good mother is even greater.
My mum is a great fantabulous woman. Women who decide to have kids are the real MVPs. Mothers of all kinds: Adoptive mothers, surrogate mothers, and biological mothers, they are our heroes.
But I rather leave this specific greatness to capable women who can handle it. While I would be here doing what I enjoy (I can’t do pass myself).
Come over next week and find out more of our controversial topics.
Sending out slices of appreciation bread to our 52 FAITHFULS. We hope life is being fair to you. If not, keep pushing. One day after another.
Kilode; Is a Nigeria slang. In this write-up it means ‘so much.’
