“None of what I’m about to say is intended to be a judgment on the author of this article.”
“Walking away benefits no one.”
But it was judgemental after all.
“Generosity is key"? I’m not seeing it in your response.
You cannot know the burden of spousal caregiving while raising kids while earning the money that supports the family while losing yourself more and more every day unless you’ve lived it. I know it because I am living it. I understand EXACTLY where he is coming from and…
Please re-read both my original comment and my reply to you. We just celebrated our 26th anniversary. I have not left him. I am just finally beginning to realize how burned out I am from carrying the weight of it all for so long without respite.
I will say it again. Caregiver lives matter too.
The more I think about this the more frustrated and angry it makes me.
The original article didn’t say that we are GIVEN the cards as you say in your 2nd paragraph. The article’s analogy talked about losing one’s “ability” to hold the cards, regardless of one’s desire to do so. That is a completely different concept.
I never NEVER said the love had run out. Nor have I said I was “abandoning” him. But it is bold of you to make the statement of what you are sure you would never do when you have never been in my shoes.