So if I had to give any advice on marriage, it’d be to first dispel this idea that you and your partner were meant to be together. You chose to be with each other, and every day you stay together you choose once more. If you ask me, that’s a lot more romantic than soulmates.
So much this.
I hit 25 this year. WE hit 25 this year.
We lost a business in year one. Scratched, clawed and pulled ourselves back together by year 3 and lost it all again by year 5. Lost a baby that same year. Built a family. Lost everything multiple times over and rebuilt together.
He has now been sick a long time. A stroke and TBIs have changed him and I carry much of the burden of US. But we still choose one another.
I’ve discovered new things about me that have also brought challenges for us both. We’ve changed some of our marital boundaries and definitions to accommodate them. But we still choose each other.
Thank you. This is very well written. Excellent advice that WILL stand the test of time.