I am so sorry for your losses :’( And that does sound like a traumatic experience with your cat. I don’t think most people know it would be possible to have a home-visit vet. I knew a family years ago that brought one in for their dog, and I thought it sounded like the best way to have such an experience that you don’t want to have. I feel lucky that there is the vet in my area who does this work. It may be more common in urban areas, but perhaps even in a small town, there is a vet who is willing to make a house call. For me, I asked our regular vet’s office if they would do it, and they recommended this other vet. And I am so glad they did. She was lovely.
Thank you for your very kind words, Mary