It’s OK…

So the other day I found myself thinking that if I could go back in time and give my younger self one piece of advice it would probably be: “It’s Ok”

So what follows are the words I needed to hear, but never heard…from the only person who ever needed to say them:

For every fear, every bit of anxiety, every question, every uncertainty…It’s ok
For every painful moment, every moment of insecurity, every moment of doubt…
It’s ok
It’s ok to be confused, it’s ok to not have the answers, it’s ok to not understand everything about the world, the people in it or the way things are…
It’s ok to be ambitious, it’s ok to dream big, in fact dream as big as you can, dream so big it scares you a little, then chase after it and relish every moment of the journey!
It’s ok to try, It’s ok to fail! It’s ok to try again, It’s ok to fail again. It’s ok to repeat as many times as necessary, just be sure you are learning from and evaluating both process and experience…
It’s ok to give up, it’s ok to find a new dream, it’s ok to walk a path different to the one you previously envisioned…
It’s ok to let go and it’s ok to hold on if that’s what your heart truly desires. It’s ok to love, it’s ok be loved, it’s ok to love more than you are loved, so it’s ok to be unloved…
It’s ok to be unwanted, it’s ok to be rejected…
It’s ok to feel pain, in fact it’s ok to fully feel, because you are alive and that is what you are designed to do! So feel fully across the emotional spectrum! Experience the highs and the lows and understand that’s it’s ok because feelings are temporary…
So it’s ok to feel sad, it’s ok to feel alone and it’s also ok to be alone. But it’s ok to feel happy, to enjoy the moments surrounded by strangers, friends, family and self…
It’s ok to respect others, even if they don’t respect themselves. It’s ok to respect yourself, it’s ok to have standards. It’s ok to ask that others respect you, but don’t expect it, sometimes you have to earn it, but it’s ok to not accept their lack of respect towards you either, because it’s ok to know your self-worth…
It’s ok to ask, it’s ok to ask anything! It doesn’t hurt to ask, so ask the right questions, ask the questions no one thinks to ask, ask the questions that need to be asked…
It’s ok to be curious, it’s ok to seek truth, knowledge and wisdom.
It’s ok to travel, it’s ok to explore, the world is vast, with much to be encountered and experienced…
It’s ok to be different, to not fit in, to stand alone. It’s ok to see the beauty in others, as you see the beauty in yourself, and if they don’t see it for themselves, it’s ok to share it with them…
It’s ok to be passionate…
It’s ok to believe in something greater than yourself…
It’s ok to defend your beliefs, but it’s ok for others to not believe the same things as you…
It’s ok to accept people, accept them as they are, accept them for their differences, accept them for their similarities, accept them for their flaws, accept them for their strengths, just remember that tolerance is not the same as acceptance…
It’s ok to lead. It’s ok to be lead…
It’s ok to ask for help, this isn’t weakness…
It’s ok to be wrong, just as it’s ok to be right, so it’s ok to consider everything…but it’s ok to be practical, sometimes this is necessary…
It’s ok to live your truth, even as those truths change, so it’s ok to question those truths and to take ahold of new truths, just live them…
It’s ok to forgive, forgiveness is something you do for yourself, your own inner peace, so it’s ok to give yourself that gift…
It’s ok to strive for perfection, as long as you remember it’s ok to never reach it…
It’s ok to be still, busy doesn’t always equate to productive, take up meditation…
It’s ok to be afraid, because bravery isn’t a lack of fear, it is action in spite of it…
It’s ok to feel powerless, we all experience it at some point, so it’s ok to accept things as they are, just as it’s ok to work towards change. Deciding what to accept, what to reject and what to change are the choices you get to make in life…
It’s ok to use your power, do not sit on your light, it’s ok to shine, so do not dim your light for any man or woman. It’s ok to be you, in fact be the best you you can be, live with that aim…
It’s ok to love yourself, this is not selfish, only through properly loving yourself will you be able to properly love others. It’s ok to be vulnerable, this too is not weakness…
So remember it’s ok, you will not break! And if you do, the experience will only make you stronger, it’s ok to believe that…
So what I’m saying to you is it’s ok to be human, it’s ok to be the person you want to be and it’s ok to take your time growing into that person, because it’s ok to be not quite there yet…

Not sure who this is for anymore, at some point I stopped writing for myself and started writing to my children…so I guess its for then, now and the yet to come and whom so ever else needs these words…


Originally published at pursuitofnappyness.com.

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