“ He said he tried hard to let you know he didn’t blame you or hold it against you.”

I get where you are going with this, and I appreciate it. I’m not angry, but the language is strange. It reads as though he is offering the victim of a crime forgiveness for the consequences of that crime. I hope — and believe — that this is not the case. If it is, it is pretty screwed up. I think you meant something else. I hope you meant something else. Words can be so slippery, but they have weight and meaning.