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Many people, when you ask them what they do, respond with “oh, I’m ‘just’ a *fill in the blank*:

  • “I’m just a teacher”
  • “I’m just an accountant”
  • “I’m just a pastor”
  • “I’m just a mom”

Because someone, somewhere, made us believe there’s certain professions to which the word ‘just’ MUST precede whatever they do. And certain professions or callings are exempt from that.

It’s a lie.

Don’t buy into it.

You’re not ‘just’ a mom.

You are a mom.

Period!

We have reduced those who shape the minds and hearts of the great to ‘just’. We gave them the ‘just’…


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https://www.thisisanfield.com/2018/04/liverpool-fc-2018-19-home-kit-officially-launched/

In a total unexpected twist of events; the kind that no movie director can come up with- Liverpool, the Premier League’s most loved and hated team, came back and won the semi-final of the Champions League against the people’s favourite, Barcelona FC.

It’s the sort of sport event they document and make DVD’s of. It’s on the level of the Proteas’ legendary 438 game- even though some friends say I’m over-exaggerating. Hyperbole or not, both second-leg Champion League games were something out of this world.


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To me, slow fashion is more than a buzz term, it became my personalised 2018 challenge. I bought thrift and second-hand garments ONLY, reinvented my unworn garments and stayed away from shopping for new ones. Sounds simple and easy to do, right? But, we all know how addictive shopping can be. I mean, retail therapy is a real thing. My withdrawal symptoms included hours of staring at my cupboard, feeling old-fashioned, outworn, unstylish and irrelevant, with an overall feeling of body disillusionment (body dysmorphia).


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I’ve learned to be nice to myself, while being hard on myself. Kindness to myself were the training grounds for kindness to others.

I’ve learned to push past the pain of broken dreams and forgotten promises.

I’ve learned to pause, and calmly think about what’s hurting me.

I’ve learned to listen to the groaning of the injustices I’ve done to myself.

I’ve learned the gracious rhythms of “yes” and “no”, and how to time them perfectly; to be confident and unapologetic in the choice of my discernment. It was still an uphill battle on the brink of burn-out.

I’ve learned…


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P L A Y I N G • S M A L L

In front of you- right now, or starting next year- is an assignment; a project, a task, a person; something you have to give all of yourself to. You know that it can change someone’s life.

Other people don’t see it.

So they keep undermining you; keep thinking you’re joking; thinking you’re not smart enough, or just don’t have what it takes. So you play small, because of where they’ve placed you.

And it bothers the heart of God, that you play small in front of people…


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You, beautiful human.

You are worth the wait and worth the stay.

You are worth the fight and worth the tears.

Because, a love that stays is what you deserve.

And you don’t have to explain to anyone why you deserve someone who will stay; who won’t count forgiveness like it’s maths; like it’s supposed to add up and be earned or justified.

Love can never be added up.

Love is Love.

You, beautiful human.

You are worth defining the relationship. You are worth clear intentions and skin in the game.

Because, a love that stays is what you deserve.

A love that stays all night and mean it…


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Being a placeholder boyfriend or girlfriend is everywhere and obvious in our culture - except to the one being placed on hold.

Place-holding happens when a guy and girl are sort of dating, but are not committed to each other, while they wait for their ONE. They don’t talk about the future much; everything is open-ended; friends hardly - if ever - becomes mutual, because what if things get serious and the ONE comes into their lives!

It happens when a guy or girl - out of fear of being alone, make their best friend their “friendboy or friendgirl”, doing everything a couple would do - excluding, or perhaps not, the physical acts of kissiology - kissing and sex (to steal a…


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If you’ve been around Gen Z long enough, or if you’re a fan of Kevin Hart’s stand-up comedy, you’ve probably heard the phrase, “you do you”, about a gazillion times. It’s basically the new “The Lord’s my Shepherd”- everybody knows it, and talks about it.

But no one really knows what it means- or at least that it’s the worst advice ever. And that it just gives further approval to a generation already so wrapped up in themselves. It’s basically a 21st century way of saying it’s OK to be a narcissist.

And I have a problem with that because…


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www.liefdewen.co.za (Nadine & I)

The past year I’ve learned of five young couples I know personally, who are either already divorced, or in the process of getting divorce. Ten people who once believed that death is the ONLY thing that could lead to separation between them. This is alongside countless of relationships that started out with marriage as the ‘goal’.

And I’ve just about had it with my generation who’s too woke for commitment. Meanwhile, the number of civil divorces increased by 20.4%, from a low of 20,980 in 2011 to 25,260 in 2015.

Just about every second millennial is either postponing marriage as far out as possible, or is just not sure about whether they will marry at all. And don’t even get me started on the “living together as an experimental marriage phase”, ugh! As if…


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www.canva.com

Het jy al opgelet hoe baie Christene praat van hoe aan die brand hulle vir die Here “was”; of hoe God groot dinge in of deur ‘n kerk “gedoen het”; of hoe mense in daai tyd in hoë getalle tot bekering “gekom het”?

Daar word altyd in die verlede tyd na die goed verwys. So asof ‘herlewing’, en ‘n tyd van radikaal lewe vir God, verby is, asof dit die “good old days” is.

Ek het my al self so gevang praat.

Ek vertel nou die dag vir ‘n vriend van die hongerte wat ek gehad het vir God, en…

Ivor Swartz

Youth pastor. Music festival-goer. Street Food-eater. Story-teller. Speaker at churches. Future food-truck owner. husband. trial and error human.

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