I know exactly what you mean about the after hours ATM situation. I’ve had that happen before too. When he got out and started walking in after me, I acted like I forgot something, turned around, walked a wide berth around him without making eye contact and drove across town to an bank that had a drive thru ATM instead. Why was he sitting in his car waiting? Why did he only get out after I did? Maybe he was just getting a deposit ready? Or maybe he was “only” waiting to mug me for my cash? But I’ve been attacked before and didn’t want to chance it. That’s what being a woman means. We have to have all these thoughts and dance all these cartwheels around the men who may just be minding their own business, but we can never be sure.