PSA To Straight People Regarding Reports That Pulse Shooter Was Maybe Gay
Reports that the man who murdered 49 people in a gay nightclub this weekend was possibly gay himself are starting to accelerate.
I’m worried about how y’all straight people are going to process this information.
It’s possible that the shooter was a self-hating gay man whose internalized homophobia led him at least in part to commit the deadliest mass shooting in American history. Based on some reports, it seems more than possible. It’s also possible he was only visiting Pulse and using gay dating apps to scout like he apparently did at Disney.
But if he was gay — or if you’ve chosen to believe that he was because it makes sense to you — it would be a mistake to assume that that’s the key to this whole twisted, terrifying, painful, mind-numbing disaster. Aha, he was gay! Well that explains it. Just another one of those poor, fucked up fags. Pass the peas, etc.
Many times in my life, I’ve heard straight people respond “well, you know, he/she is probably just gay him/herself” in response to some homophobic remark or behavior.
That’s a tidy way to blame homophobia on gay people.
Just statistically speaking, there are a lot more straight people on Earth than gay people, and there are a TON of homophobes walking around. They can’t all be gay. Let’s take your cliche high school dickheads who pushed the young gay kid into a locker every time they passed him in the hallway. Probably some were gay. Most were not. And most picked that shit up from their straight parents or straight coaches or anti-gay religious dogma, and were allowed to do it by their straight school administrators, and until very recently were rarely if ever asked to think of gay people as people by straight-driven media, pop culture, and public policy.
Straight people are to blame for homophobia.
I realize this isn’t what you guys want to hear right now. You want to hear love is love is love is love is love and diversity is strength and hate never wins, etc.
But I’m scared that you’ll all throw up your hands now, hearing that the lives of dozens of gay people were lost at the hands of a deranged gay man, relieved of the burden of having to consider why somebody thought a gay nightclub was a target. Or how the homophobia bubbling in our culture could distill and putrefy in a violent person.
Straight people, please realize: whether or not this terrorist was gay, his homophobia did not come out of a vacuum. It was taught.
And because this is America, he was allowed to have a fucking assault rifle to express it.