by Dillon J. Romney

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Ajmeet woke up sweating and breathing heavily. He had been having a nightmare, but it was already fading. He reached for his notepad to catch the last remaining image: a small peach tree emerging from fresh soil. He finished writing and looked up. The glow of the outside sun brightened his black-out curtains. But it was strange: too bright, too orange.

He looked over at his wife; she was still sleeping. He got out of bed and went over to their large window. He drew the curtains aside and saw the source of the light…

It is a blanket term used to cover various ethical violations.

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People speak of toxic masculinity as if it covers every terrible thing that a man could do. I have heard this term used to describe boys that don’t want to go shopping or men that won’t wear women’s clothes. People throw toxic masculinity around off-hand, but with serious intent. The term is demonizing masculinity.

People associate toxic masculinity with aggressive dominance, misogyny, homophobia, greed, violence, and hatred. The creators of the term may have intended it to describe the dark sides of masculinity. But, folks that despise masculine elements have confiscated it. They are devaluing both physical and behavioral masculinity.

by Dillon J. Romney

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Aarush yearned for the Grasslands, which was a place full of beautiful, endless tall grasses. It was also a world separate from Earth and full of magic. Aarush and Aiyden, both seventeen years old, had just left the Grasslands, returning to Earth through a portal pathway. They were heading home, only intending to stay for one night to gather supplies. Then, they planned to make their way back to the Grasslands.

Aarush walked along the rocky shore of a small stream surrounded by dense balsam fir and thin jack pine trees. She looked at the…

I got three Top-Writer Titles, but I lost touch with my fictional worlds.

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A Positive Note

Back in February of this year (2020), an old article I wrote went viral: Your Sexual Partner Selection is shaped by your opposite-sex parent in childhood. It skyrocketed in views, even though I wrote the piece way back in October of 2019. I didn’t think that could happen on I was under the impression that if an article didn’t go viral in the first few days, it was dead. I was wrong.

I don’t know why it resurrected and swirled around Medium. …

And you are going to have to make some sacrifices.


Love is a passionate affection for someone or something. Passion is the readiness to suffer or sacrifice for someone or something. Affection is attachment and devotion steeped in emotion. Love is sacrifice, suffering, emotional connection, and dedication. It is also joy, pleasure, purpose, and meaning — the latter beauties grow from the former hardships.

Love is not lust. Lust is pure pleasure. It is eating pie, watching porn, and sleeping all day. Love is not nice, safe, comfortable, or simple. …

But what does it mean to cancel a person?

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Twitter is going wild with #BryanAdamsIsCancelled. The Canadian Singer-Songwriter posted an Instagram video on Monday, May 11th, 2020. The footage was him singing, “It Cuts Like A Knife.” Under that video, he posted this:

“CUTS LIKE A KNIFE. A song by me. Tonight was supposed to be the beginning of a tenancy of gigs at the @royalalberthall, but thanks to some fucking bat eating, wet market animal selling, virus making greedy bastards, the whole world is now on hold, not to mention the thousands that have suffered or died from this…

Aggression and Dangerous Work. Childbirth and Child Care.

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In some conversations, the terms masculinity and femininity are considered arbitrary and destructive.

I think that by considering the origins of these terms, you might see that masculine and feminine elements are real and useful because they speak to our very nature. The identity of the individual comes from that nature.

I believe that the spectrum of Masculinity and Femininity exists within individuals. Masculinity is not exclusive to males, and femininity is not exclusive to females. But each carries unique burdens.

Humankind has had to endure and survive brutal privation. Men and women, long before civilization, had to divide responsibilities…

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Exploration and Mastery; Approach and Inhibition

The Dilemma of the Creative Mind

The creative mind contains two conflicting ambitions. Exploration: the generation of many ideas in multiple domains. Mastery: the pursuit of excellence within one domain.

For example, the writer who reads widely and has a dozen book ideas for a dozen different genres is exploring. That same writer who writes only one of those books within one of those genres is mastering.

Exploration and Mastery are separate territories/domains, but creative things come from both.

Note: A creative thing is a pathway, idea, or product that is original, useful, and surprising.

Exploration and Mastery exist in opposition and harmony. That is the…

The pathways of Creativity, and the work they require.

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Do you ever tell yourself

  • I don’t have enough time
  • I don’t have enough experience
  • I don’t have enough talent
  • I can’t stay focused
  • I’m not smart enough
  • There are too many distractions
  • It’s all too hard

Fair enough, and you are right; all of those things are true. But what if you set out against all that and painted your masterpiece anyway?

The difference between Creativity and Creative Things

Creativity is the state of or ability to facilitate innovation. Creative things are the products of that Creativity. That is important because it means that a person can engage and pursue Creativity, regardless…

You have your terms mixed up.

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Why bother with this conversation right now?

I believe persistence and imagination are mechanisms of advancement, whether we are talking about the arts or surviving a pandemic.

Also, creative ideas, which change the world, require incubation and distance. That means taking a break from the problems at hand.


Creativity is taking everything you know and developing a novel pathway, idea, or product.

Passion is enduring something because it is worth the burden of suffering.

Imagination is forming images and ideas within the mind without external stimulation.

Persistence is the ability to persevere with tenacity under stress, fatigue, and hardship.

I believe that we confuse creativity with imagination…

Dillon J. Romney

Musician, Writer, Podcaster. Website:

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