I really don’t know where in the world that I want to be, but I know that it’s not home. I was surprised at my own reaction. “No, no way. There is no way that we are going back. We’re not. No.” It was probably a little louder and faster…

My wife and I recently sold our house, quit our jobs and left America. I don’t think America is a safe place for us to grow older. As I just turned 50 this year, it got to be a more and more difficult reality to avoid. I’ve watched a lot…

We’re back at home in the US for a month while we pivot to our next move. It was easier to apply for our French visa in New York. A strange thing keeps happening in my conversations here: people are not talking about some of the huge things that happened…

No matter how much you separate yourself from things and places, there is always something that remains to be dealt with. Going home always brings up these things. We haven’t been away that long, but we’ve really disconnected from home. This visit feels a lot more like the last time…

In the past 8 months, my wife and I have spent most of our time in Portugal and England. Next week, we need to go to New York to take care of some business. It’s worrying me. It is amazing how much time passes and then suddenly, you are on…

Last year, my wife and I decided that we would leave the United States. I don’t think we fully realized all of the ways that it would change and challenge us. I am changing — or maybe I am just making my changes obvious to others. When I started to write articles on Medium, the idea in my mind was to try and capture what…

It’s cheaper just to eat in a lot of other places, but until I did a side-by-side comparison of the costs of buying groceries, I really didn’t know just how much cheaper. London is famously expensive, but it’s still not as expensive as it is in New York. Yes, rents…

When I think about the reasons my wife and I don’t want to be in America anymore, it is impossible to ignore race as a factor. Discussions about race are often complicated & I am likely to take some missteps. Apologies in advance, but I am here for the conversation. Americans outside of America …

Retirement wasn’t going to work out for us For years, I have kept a list titled, “Why we should leave America.” The list I kept read like an angry letter that I wrote and never mailed. Every so often, I would find that document, read through it and then update it. For how many years had that document, it’s a surprising short list. …