CARE TO LISTEN

Sometimes time is enough — comfort, listen, learn, and understand.

Lots of my friends are searching. They need a job, a new place to live, health care, a new relationship, happiness. Just talking through goals and options is good for the searchers. Sometimes I offer advice — probably way too often. More often, it is helpful to ask questions. Sometimes it is helpful to repeat statements that the searcher makes. The real value of this give and take lies in the process of the searchers talking through their problems, and identifying their options.

I have come to believe that just being present may be the most helpful thing I can do for a searching friend. Giving the gift of time may be the best gift of all. Hug, listen, understand — maybe that’s all I can do, but I can do that. Life is complicated, and it’s getting more and more complex. Balancing lots of responsibilities, keeping all those balls in the air — some days are better than others. A little slice of peace is about all we can realistically hope to achieve. And it’s worth working for.

“People don’t always need advice. Sometimes all they really need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.” Author Unknown