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It be your own circle : a response to lack of growth and building in friendships

It be your own circle.

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When I say this ... it’s not to shade the “squad you’re with”, the “set you rep”,

but…

WE MUST NOT HOLD THESE CIRCLES TO HIGHER STANDARDS THAN WE HOLD OURSELVES OR EVEN A HIGH POWER

When you sit back and think about the people who consume your time, the people who you are with on a daily basis…

Are they a good reflection of who you are ?

Growing up , whenever I would explain to my mother the actions that my “friends” would partake in, the first thing she would always say is… “Birds of a feather flock together”. Whenever she would say it, I would roll my eyes and not believe it.

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At 23,

This is a reoccurring theme. There are constantly situations that form in my life where I have to reevaluate the level of growth within myself as well as my friend groups. If you do not want to be remembered by how the people around you are acting... It is essential that you change your environment. Leave the drama alone all 2018… matter of fact…

FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.


Everybody wants to level up , but how can you do that when the people around you aren’t on the same frequencies as you are? If someone in the circle is not living in a way that will reflect the same morals and values as you or have you look good good in public then... WHAT ARE THEY AROUND FOR?

“Sometimes you have to give up on people. Not because you don’t care but because they don’t. A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know. Love yourself enough to say goodbye to those who don’t make time for you or don’t know how to love you back. Let go of what hurts, even if it hurts to let go.” ~ Jennifer Green

We ALL have to sit back and understand that you and only you are the leader of your life. It is not your job to lead your friends in hopes that they will follow suit of what you are doing. It is not your job to follow after your friends because their level up looks different and maybe better than yours at the moment.

We must stop playing follow the leader…

How can you expect to level up physically , emotionally and mentally when you’re worrying about the next person, minding everyone else’s business but cannot breakdown everything happening in life that is specific to you.


With the New Year just hours from us, it is important that we allow ourselves to break free from unwanted energies , fake love and other people’s baggage. This is the year to be the best YOU !! Don’t find yourself singing TLC’s what about your friends …

Find yourself saying…

WHAT ABOUT YOURSELF
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