While online communities especially within feminism can be or feel insular and sometimes privy to groupthink, this is a very poor example of the greater point you’re trying to make. Many Black feminists I know (including myself) were on our various platforms talking about our painful experiences of sexual assault and homophobia on our lives, and how we can’t support that energy. That’s not petty, it’s just real talk. An opinion.
Many Black women I saw also mentioned conflicting feelings of wanting to support the telling of this important story by a talented Black man but not wanting to support a (alleged?) rapist and (former?) homophobe. That’s the majority of what I read. I also saw many Black women (some self-proclaimed feminists and some not) saying they still want to support the film. You and I saw very different conversations. A beautiful thing about social media is that you can filter out a lot of bullshit!
Clean up your Twitter feed and find your community. Stop trying to fit in if a space that doesn’t feel accepting or feels “petty.” Find Black feminists (or not) who challenge your beliefs but with whom you feel free to be yourself.
Black feminism did not make this film flop. We don’t have that level of power (yet). Black feminism gave/gives voice and space to issues like sexual assault and homophobia where we are too often expected to be silent. So many women and men of all races contacted me in solidarity when I shared that I won’t see the film because as a rape survivor I can’t give my money to him…nor am I ok with homophobia. That’s what online (Black) feminism can do.
I’m laughing because I didn’t even know his wife was white. Probably because I stay away from toxicity on Twitter. 😉