9 things I learnt during the Escape Tribe

Jasraj (Jas) Hothi
Feb 21, 2016 · 7 min read

(An amended version of my ‘open mic’ whilst on the Escape Tribe at Escape The City, December 2015)

1. After a high comes a low

Action: Try to keep as balanced and level-headed as possible. I am human, so this is easier said than done, and not possible every minute of every day, but this will be my aim. (It was the same in my recruitment job — better not to get too “buzzed up” after a successful fee, or too “low” after a candidate pulling out of an interview, etcetera).

2. Even introverts need interaction

Action: Get out of the house and schedule more ‘socialising time’. And, as I have to keep reminding myself, sharing a thought/concern with someone you can trust really does help. (Yet, next time, I will likely silently stew over a problem for a good few days/weeks before someone in my family finally notices and eventually tease it out of me! Something I’m still working on…) Oh — and I really ought to rave a bit more often too.

MorningGloryVille with some of my Escape Tribe, November 2015 (the boys were under-represented that day!)

This leads nicely onto…

3. I need to get out of my head more

Perfection is the enemy of the done.

Action: Take time to consciously create stuff, and put it out into the world. e.g. Writing blog posts like this

4. At this point in time, I want to work for myself — or at least give it a go

Credit: www.thegeniusworks.com

Action: try building something, and see where it takes me. I don’t where it will lead, but I know that I will gain feedback and learn things along the way — both ‘tangible’ things and ‘things’ about myself.

5. There’s something about coming together in tribes…

“A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea” — Seth Godin

Before I started on the Escape Tribe, I would hear — time and time again — how past tribees have found the people and the support from the tribe the most valuable thing. I can now see what they were talking about. Bringing together a group of people with a common purpose (in our case, figuring ourselves out and trying to get to a place of ‘more fulfilling work’) can be SO powerful.

There is magic in the tribe

Before Escape, I used to expose myself to a virtual tribe — the likes of Scott Dinsmore, Leo Babauta and Chris Guillebeau — all of whom had carved out work during what they loved. I still continue to utilise this “virtual community”, and it was there for me before I had my real-world Escape tribe.

Back in the day, lots more folks used to go to churches and suchlike, encouraging community spirit and talking warmly and openly about “the big questions” in life. This is what’s missing in the world today (and, I reckon, one of the reasons why UK wellbeing has plateau’d over the last 50 years, and mental health issues are on the rise).

I really think we would all be better off being part of a tribe. The openness and warmth is quite refreshing — you find yourself having the sorts of conversations that you just wouldn’t have normally (even with a close family member or friend) — and there’s a feeling that you’re all in it together, and that you’re fellow tribers genuinely care. You can’t put a price on that. In fact there’s a lot to write about Tribes… watch this space for a future blog post.

Action: Keep surrounding myself with a support network of likeminded people — at this moment in time, this means Escape and my fellow Masters students.

6. Leaps are necessary — whether big or small

Perhaps there was another way to do this, rather than resign. I could have built something alongside my job, as others choose to do. Alas, I didn’t. There is no right or wrong answer. What I do believe, is that you need the odd leap of faith here or there, no matter how big or small.

Action: No specifics here. Just keep taking giant and mini-leaps as necessary! (Though carefully assess the situation before a giant one)

7. “You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.”

Action: Keep surrounding myself with the right people — my people.

8. No one knows what they’re doing

In fact, Reddit.com co-founder Alexis Ohanian previously admitted “I have no idea what I’m doing and that’s awesome”.

Action: No one knows what the hell they’re doing — so just get started! Matt Trinetti talks more about this here — “Start Before You’re Ready”.

9. The journey continues. Keep moving forward!

Somewhere out there in a parallel universe, there’s another Jas doing something completely different and manifesting a happy, fulfilling life in some other way. This is how I like to think of it, and it avoids me getting sucked into the perfectionist’s temptation of knowing “the one thing that’s right for me”. Because there isn’t a one thing, and you are doomed if you fall into that trap. Take it from me, I’ve been there.

Action: Onward with the journey. Like a car with headlamps in the dark, it’s actually quite fun being able to see just ahead and not the end point.

To be able to look back at what you’ve done — you’ve got to keep moving forward and keep on doing stuff!

So here’s to moving forward during the rest of 2016 and beyond. Hopefully there’ll be lots to look back on in future months and years!

Jasraj (Jas) Hothi

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