Jamie I really liked this — and it resonates! Like the look of 10,5,3,1 — might well give that a go. I think you hit the nail on the head — I see “it” more now as finding your “why” (Simon Sinek talks about this) — which can be realised/manifested in a whole host of different ways, as you described using your girlfriend’s example. The frustration/beauty(!) of it is, that even your “why” might change as time goes on…but that’s also OK! Good luck :)