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Don’t Pretend You Know Me

Do you have that one person in your life that judges everybody around them? I definitely do and, for better or worse, I don’t think he’s going anywhere any time soon.

As I approach 30, he cannot understand why I am single, why I am so focused on my career, and why I purchased my first home instead of waiting until I’m married. He can’t comprehend why I don’t need a guy in my life.

He continuously questions my life decisions and judges me for every move I make. After only meeting me three short years ago, he thinks he knows me. I hate to break it to him, he doesn’t.

He wasn’t there when I got out of my seven-year relationship, or when I broke up with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. He doesn’t appreciate what I do for a living and why I am so passionate about my career. He doesn’t see the network and support system I have built and how fulfilled my life is.

If he knew me, he would know how hard I have worked to build back up my strength and independence. That those are things I am not willing to give up easily, nor should I ever have to. Instead, he thinks I, and every other woman, should be married at my age and ready to start a family, if not already have two kids and a dog.

Well, my friend, welcome to 2016. The lessons I’ve learned in my life have taught me that I am more than content being myself. I don’t need a man in my life, and any man that is in my life will be there because I want him there.

Abraham Lincoln said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” So, keep wasting your time judging me for not living the life you think I should be living. Excuse me if I don’t care anymore, I’m too busy creating the life I’m meant to live

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