What Forging My Own Path Has Taught Me About Life

When I was 20 I had the perfect answer when people asked me what I was planning to do with my life.

Graduate college, go to grad school, get a job, get promoted. Buy stuff, get married, take a family vacation every year.

And then at 27, I found myself, unhappy, unhealthy, and unfulfilled. I had to take back my own power and change my mindset in order to carve out a new life path.

In the midst of losing my path and carving out a new one, I have grown and morphed into a woman I am proud to be. I’ve learned to figure it out on the go.

I’ve realized that in life you have to be brave, bold, and kind.

Being bold is facing my biggest fears….like zip lining.

Here’s what forging my own path has taught me:

I’ve learned to be free

One of the best gifts I’ve ever given myself was completely getting rid of my TV addiction.

It freed up so much time to spend with loved ones, read more, and do things I love. By freeing myself from something that disempowered me, I found that I opened the door for better things to take its place.

Cut something out that is holding you back today and you’ll find you gain more than what you lost.

Note: I didn’t cut out Game of Thrones though.

Having more time for doing things I love, like cooking

I’ve learned the art of being bold

Being fearful is part of life but being bold? That’s power.

When I closed the door to my apartment for the last time in October before moving to Costa Rica, I cried fear out of me and boldly dried my tears. I acknowledged my fear and I walked right by it.

I asked myself if this was a mistake. And then told myself “Well better an ‘oops’ than a ‘what if’”.

Anyone can place fear or doubt in you but no one can take away your courage.

The night I found this book in the wrong spot and realized it was a sign.

I’ve learned about the power of truth

People judge me and have opinions about my lifestyle choices.

I used to make excuses to avoid their judgment, only to find they still judged.

All my self-doubt came from the stories I told because those stories weren’t my truth. Now I put my cards all on the table and own who I am. I live in truth.

I am confident and I stronger because of it.

I’ve learned to join a tribe

These are the people who love and support me unconditionally.

We celebrate our wins together and mourn our losses together. We inspire and challenge each other.

We can’t go at it alone and finding your tribe allows all of you to go further together.

My Under30Experiences Tribe traveled to Nicaragua to be by my side at my wedding in June

I’ve learned to be kinder to myself

My biggest struggle is showing myself kindness.

My Instagram feed is filled with little love notes to myself that I read as a reminder to not be so hard on myself. I have a long way to go on this journey. Yet, every time I am kinder to myself, I give myself permission to live fuller.

Today when someone asks me, “What are you doing with your life?”, I smile & close my eyes to see all the blessings in my life.

When I open my eyes, I say “We’ll just see…” and I continue on, knowing that no matter where my path leads me next, I am living my most true and authentic version of my life.

Find your truth and live it.