5 Ways to Help you find the Perfect Job

The grass is always greener, right?

I want a job that inspires me, that allows me enough time with my family, that pays me well enough that I can buy groceries without counting pennies.

I want to be location-independent, aka the new ‘buzz word’ in job creation. I want to be able to work in an English speaking job while in a foreign country with a better climate.

I want to be financially independent so that I don’t have to rely on my husband, yet be an awesome Mummy at the same time.

I want my kids to look up to me proudly and to learn passion from me.

I want to look back at what I have built and know that I have given it my best shot and not settled for second best.

Do I want too much?

Let’s review my list — Inspiration, passion, creation, money. I think that is what most people want whether consciously or subconsciously.

So your job doesn’t inspire you and you are just doing what you are told day in, day out. You dream of new horizons where people worship you and you have found the golden key to really have it all. But then the reality strikes of kid’s school fees, car and mortgage repayments and a staid, boring relationship of day to day drudgery.

Forget the daydreams and either make them real or send them away.

Take my 5 tips to get out of the rut of self loathing and to get on the path to your dream job.

  1. Love yourself again

Think of yourself as a person and look in the mirror. Do you still see the 18 year old full of the hopes of a ‘You can do anything’ upbringing? If you don’t, then bring them back. The world used to be your oyster! Whatever age you are, you really can do anything if you use the power of your mind. Fix up your diet, add some exercise, get a haircut, look after your skin, smile more.

2. Discipline is the cornerstone to your freedom.

Find a routine and then make it a habit. Get out of bed in the morning, say something positive to yourself and spend the morning doing all of your important jobs first. Being disciplined will open a world of opportunities to you. Do things that are necessary even when you don’t feel like it. Colleagues will start to see you as a ‘doer’. On the days when it is hard to do, put on some music to help and make it happen.

3. Research

Train your mind. And let your mind train you. Set goals. Keep a journal or a calendar. Have a plan and write it down. Start with a financial budget and how much money you need to earn a year so that the pursuit of a dream doesn’t turn quickly into a nightmare of rash decisions that you have called ‘courage’. Being brave enough to jump into the fire doesn’t mean that you will come out unscathed, it just means you were stupid.

David Ogilvy says that you should do all of your research and ‘stuff your conscious mind with information’ then allow the big ideas to come from your unconscious by doing something to bring on the eureka moment like taking a bath or a long walk.

Have courage and be open to those ideas. Some people (like me) seem to be bombarded with ten different ideas a day, each of them seemingly brilliant and inspired. Write them down in your notebook or journal. Filter through the daft ones (a B & B in France — nice dream, but the financials do not add up!) (a market gardener when you spend 6 months of the year with your head in a tissue box and eyes streaming with hayfever) and seriously look at the others. By seriously, I mean, do some research. Talk to people that don’t compete with you — preferably ones in a different country. Brainstorm with yourself or with others. Is it a viable idea? (Some really aren’t!). Do I have the courage to do it?

4. Notice other people and notice the world around you.

Get outside and talk to new people. The planet is full of them. Friends make the place where you live your ‘home’. Strangers that become named people make holidays memorable. When you start noticing other people you will find that you start being noticed too. That is a good thing. You will become a bigger and better person — more confident, more ideas, more chance to get your dream job or settle down to be happy where you are.

5. Side-line or moonlight in your dream job.

Your dream might lead you back to where you are now if it is not a tried and tested formula. Do as much as you can in your spare time so you know what your dreams are in the light of day. Even Anne of Green Gables realised that her day dreams had lead her to make some pretty poor decisions.

If you don’t put all of your eggs in one basket all at once, you may get there eventually without the sudden shock and trauma.

So, is the grass really greener on the other side? For sure — it will be for a while, but then you will mow it all down and until you decide to plant flowers or fertilise the land, you will be right back where you started looking over at the fence at the next pasture.